Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Venting.....

  • Why don't people understand that a preemie baby will ALWAYS be considered a preemie baby? 
  • Why can't people understand that preemie lungs are considered undeveloped until the child is AT LEAST 24 months corrected age?
  • Why can't people understand that a preemie will always have weak lungs and be more apt to contract colds and respiratory infections?
  • Why can't I make people understand that during cold, flu & RSV season it is in the best interest of my children to stay at home and away from other children?
Before you judge or get mad I ask you ONCE AGAIN to place yourself in our shoes for just one minute.....

Imagine you went through hell and back just to get pregnant.  Your pregnancy is rough at best.  You almost lose both your surviving children within minutes of them being born.  You spend countless hours in the NICU for over three and a half months of your life.  Don't you think that you would do everything humanly possible to make sure your children don't get sick?  Don't you think that you would do everything in your power to make sure that they don't ever have to suffer one ounce of pain?  While I'm not naive in the fact that my girls will never get sick, I think it's only good parenting to try and protect them.  Am I wrong?  Please just try and understand before you judge and/or make your ignorant comments. 

How far are you willing to go to protect your kids?  I will do anything I have to!  And if that means putting up with people who can't grasp that concept, then so be it, but I just wish I could make people understand!!!

9 comments:

Jennifer said...

I'm sorry you have to deal with people like this. You have every right to continue to be the wonderful mother you are. Your right is to protect the well being of your babies. Anyone who disagrees can kiss your behind.

Robin said...

Uh oh.. I'm sorry you're dealing with people who don't "get it". Just stick to your guns and don't feel badly about it.

Anonymous said...

Why now? Why do you care what people think? It's obvious as a mother than first and formost you want to protect your children but If you have something to say why don't you say it to the person or persons you have the issue with? It really sounds like your speaking directly to someone. Issues are better resolved when met head on, don't you think?

Anonymous said...

Wow! Anonymous from Missouri....way to woman up and take credit for your comment. Just know that I just spoke with Janet and she knows who you are. Through trackers on her blog she knows exactly who you are. Your url shows up via the time you posted your comment & corresponds to the time you were logged onto her site. Obviously you didn't understand the blog post either. I'm guessing your are a parent of perfectly healthy kids who has never had to worry about anything in regards to your childrens health??? Why do people find it necessary to criticize us mothers of preemies for everything we do???

Jessica said...

I feel your pain. We kept the kids inside during RSV season for their first two years and it was so worth it, even though everyone thought we were insane. Hope everyone will give you a break and know you are putting your babies first.

Heather said...

WoW! I'm shocked that you still have to deal with this type of ignorance from people. Even though I know your particular situation that you are referring to right now, it doesn't help that you constantly have numerous friends and family on your back about it. This isn't just one isolated incident as "anonymous" speculates. Good for you... Hold your ground and do what's best for you!

Molly said...

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with the stupidity of the people like "anonymous". Yes, obviously you want to protect your children but that doesn't stop the ignorant comments from bothering you. I know that you are dealing with a number of family members giving you grief about the upcoming holidays. I hope things work out for you and that people start to think before they open their mouths. Stick to your guns and do what is best for your girls. They wouldn't be where they are today if it wasn't for you guys being such great parents!

Jody McMillan said...

Janet just stick to your guns. Even though we are beyond careful at our house we are ALL sick with colds right now..Gladly it's not RSV but you can never be too careful. Maybe they should also realize that the older people get (aka our parents age) they can get really sick and even die from the same stuff that can hurt our kids now!

Aunt Laura said...

Janet,

I am way behind on reading your blog and I'm just now catching up. This post made me very angry!! I hope that you found "anonymous" and kicked her ass for being so stupid, rude & insignificant!! I know that you know who this person is and I know that her opinion doesn't mean crap to you, but it makes me so angry that people can be this shallow, stupid, and selfish when they themselves have perfectly healthy children. Some people take everything they have for granted and the only thing they think about is themselves. Good for you for stepping up and speaking your mind. I still think you should kick her ass for being such a bitch, but that's just me!!